Can you spot the error in the sentence below? Scroll to the bottom of today’s post for the answer.
I enjoy hearing the childrens’ voices from the nearby playground.
Can you spot the error in the sentence below? Scroll to the bottom of today’s post for the answer.
I enjoy hearing the childrens’ voices from the nearby playground.
A recent New Yorker article announced that “The Personal Essay Boom Is Over.” Magazines aren’t publishing as many personal essays as they used to. Jia Tolentino – author of the piece – offered several reasons why. Many of the essays published during the boom were too personal. Sometimes the accounts were horrifically painful. And some topics were too big for the scope of a personal essay – a problem that Tolentino thinks became particularly troublesome during the last Presidential election.
I read Tolentino’s article with alarm – until I got to the end. I think personal essays are wonderful, and I wish more writers would experiment with them. They’re especially popular with the writing group I facilitate. In fact they’re some of the finest pieces I’ve read over the years that we’ve been meeting and critiquing one another’s work.
So I was relieved when Tolentino ended her article by saying that personal essays are “a valuable on-ramp” for writers – and that she enjoys “watching people try to figure out if they had something to say.”
I read Tolentino’s article on the train to Savannah. (I had plenty of time to read and think during the eight-hour trip from Central Florida!) My brain kept circling back to a pair of personal essays I’d read in Woman’s Day long ago. What was that all about? I finally decided that those essays hold an important clue to that “Do I have something to say?” question.
In 1971, Woman’s Day asked two readers to write about shopping for food for their families. One woman spent lavishly, believing that mealtimes should be about pleasure. The other woman – wife of a minister – focused on economy.
It’s been a long time – but I was able to reread both of those articles online today. A Google search took me to a Seattle curriculum where they’ve been published (with lots of typos that probably crept in during the scanning process) for a course called Food: The Challenge to Manage. If you scroll down to part 13, you can read J.C. Boyd’s article about spending lavishly on wonderful meals for her family. Part 16 – by Jean Saffin – is all about thrift.
Both women wrote about shopping, cooking, and the everyday issues that come up when you’re cooking for a family. Mrs. Extravagant had picky children and a fussy husband whose definition of “vegetable” was limited to potatoes and green beans. Mrs. Thrifty had three children who’d been taught to eat what was on their plates and a husband who valued economy as much as she did.
But what shone through those essays were the personalities and lifestyles of the two women and their families. There were quirks. Despite her “money-is-no-object” philosophy, Mrs. Extravagant had to buy margarine because her husband and children didn’t like butter. Mrs. Thrifty’s kids wanted to be like their friends, so she had to buy snacks for their school lunches.
Mrs. Extravagant wrote about following in the footsteps of her mother, who once wore out a stove because she enjoyed cooking so much. Mrs. Thrifty learned authentic Chinese cooking from her mother-in-law, who had lived in China when she was a missionary. Mrs. Extravagant served liver once a year when her husband was away on business. Mrs. Thrifty never served it (“I flunked,” she confessed.)
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During that long train ride, I thought about Charlie and me and our love of trains. OK, we’re not very interesting people. Still, you could have learned a lot about us if you’d sat in a nearby seat in that train car. We boarded the train with a framed picture we’d bought in Savannah (a picture of a bluegill that Charlie spotted in an antique store.) We kept checking the time to find out when the dining car opened for lunch. Charlie helped another passenger put her suitcase on the luggage rack.
We did a lot of reading. We did a lot of talking. After lunch we both took cups of coffee back to our seats. Charlie went online several times to look for updates about the Las Vegas hockey expansion draft. Neither of us did any texting, and we didn’t make a single phone call.
Nothing exciting there! But those details about this-is-who-we-are and this-is-how-we-live are the raw materials for personal essays.
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Now I want to go back to Jia Tolentino’s comment about “watching people try to figure out if they had something to say.” I think Mrs. Extravagant and Mrs. Thrifty are two women who figured it out. It’s not just that they spent a lot of time thinking about feeding their families. They were also able to dig into their values, habits, and challenges; organize them; and write them up in readable personal essays. Mrs. Extravagant sometimes had the voice and style of a stand-up comedian! I’d love to know what her life was like after she published in Woman’s Day. Mrs. Thrifty’s writing is less polished, but she seemed more honest and real.
What’s important to you? Do you ever watch yourself living your life? Do you enjoy digging into your values, habits, and challenges? You might find yourself writing a personal essay that readers will remember years later.
It sounds like an experiment worth trying.
Instant Quiz ANSWER
Here’s a simple rule for placing apostrophes correctly: Put the apostrophe after the last letter of the word or name.
Let’s try it with today’s possessive word: children. The last letter is “n.” So: children‘s.
I enjoy hearing the children’s voices from the nearby playground.
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Charlie and I are back in Savannah! We always ask for the same room in the same bed-and-breakfast. We always eat at Clary’s. We always take the Dolphin Magic boat ride. We’ve never lived here, but these trips to Savannah always feel like a homecoming.
Even the train rides here and back are fun. On one recent trip we decided to fly home rather than board a train at the ungodly hour of 6:40 AM. The trek through Atlanta Airport to our connecting flight turned out to be an ordeal, and we both decided that maybe getting up early wasn’t so bad after all. So on this trip we’ll be having breakfast on the train – maybe lunch too.
I find it odd that I – a big-city girl at heart – love this small Southern city so much. I can imagine myself living here, walking through Forsyth Park every morning, strolling down to the Riverfront to watch the container ships cruising back and forth, and then stopping at Leopold’s afterwards for ice cream. I wonder if the people who really do live in Savannah know how lucky they are.
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Writers need to be experts at switching identities. The mature me can look at Savannah with wise eyes and appreciate its history and charm – and my inner Peter Pan can have a wonderful time watching the container ships traveling back and forth along the Savannah River.
It was a delightful surprise to find out that my 84-year-old ballet teacher loves Savannah as much as I do. We were chatting and comparing notes, and I expected her to say something about Savannah’s beautiful parks and fascinating history.
“I like to watch the container ships,” was her comment. Seems she’s been able to keep in touch with her inner Peter Pan too. Good for her – and good for us.
(Incidentally, she’s a terrific writer.)
The older I get, the more amazed I am by everything that’s packed into our language. Let me amend that…packed into every language.
Great writers and thinkers can take a familiar word – one you and I have seen many times – and help us uncover meanings and implications we’ve never seen before. Playwright Bernard Shaw was a master at this. So was theologian Paul Tillich (I’m thinking of what he did with words like “grace,” “salvation,” and “sin.”)
Today I want to talk about a recent Washington Post advice column by Carolyn Hax that started me thinking about one of those familiar words. A woman wrote in because she was getting tired of waiting for a marriage proposal. Her beloved was a married man, they’d been together a long time, and he’d made many promises and declarations of love – but he was still legally married. The letter writer said she was thinking about giving him an ultimatum.
Here’s what Hax told her: “Ultimatums are a lousy decision-making strategy because they shift responsibility for your choices onto someone else. ‘If you [act], then I [react].'” She told the woman to take an honest look at the relationship and make a decision on her own: keep waiting, or leave.
I started thinking about a time when I too was thinking about delivering an ultimatum. It was long ago when I was committed heart-and-soul to an organization that didn’t seem to care much about me and my feelings.
I debated for a long time about laying down an either-or choice – “Fix this stuff, or I’m quitting” – and finally decided on a different route. I resigned. If they really wanted me to stay (as they’d assured me several times), the next move was up to them.
What happened next was…nothing.
It was a hard decision for me because I had a bright future with the group, despite the problems. Today, with the benefit of hindsight, I’m glad I took that step, and I also know that the person causing most of the problems was an alcoholic.
Back to ultimatums. It would have made a huge difference if I’d had Carolyn Hax standing by my shoulder to tell me that ultimatums always mean giving the final decision to the other person. I wasn’t thinking that clearly, and all I had to guide me was my gut.
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Our love of writing gives people like you and me an extraordinary opportunity to share our knowledge and experience with others. The trick – of course – is to get their attention. The more I read Carolyn Hax, the more dissatisfied I am with conventional advice columnists. Halfway through most letters I can predict what they’re going to say.
With Carolyn Hax, however, I almost never know what direction she’s going to take. If you can bring that same freshness to your own writing, you’re going to build your own loyal readership. Can you take a familiar word – airplane, Christmas, love, cat, breakfast – and bring it to life in a way your readers aren’t expecting?
Not easy to do – but a goal worth striving for!
I often hear questions about the exclamation point. I always respond that it’s an informal punctuation mark that rarely finds its way into formal writing. Professional writers reserve exclamation marks for two uses: dialogue and less formal writing situations (like this blog!).
My friend Margaret Swanson just sent me a wonderful article arguing for a more liberal attitude towards the exclamation mark. The article comes from a quality source – The Fresh Air radio show on NPR. You can read it here: https://n.pr/2s1b8lR. Geoff Nunberg is an excellent writer who makes a convincing case.
Here’s what struck me, however: He employed the exclamation point only once in his article! So he’s transmitting a mixed message.
This post is for anyone who’s well on the way to completing a book. Here’s a book marketing strategy you should consider: Adding an extra feature at the end of your book to attract more buyers.
One possibility is to insert a Discussion Guide for book clubs. These are informal groups that get together once a month or so to discuss a book they’ve all chosen to read. Book clubs are everywhere (I belong to one myself, and the library in my town sponsors not one but two of them.)
You may have heard of a book called Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood by Rebecca Wells. When it was first published, sales were slow – nobody expected it to become a bestseller. But then book clubs began talking about it, and soon Rebecca Wells was on her way to fame and a series of successful novels.
Another terrific strategy for book marketing is to create a Study Guide for schools, churches, clubs, and similar groups. Teachers and program directors are always looking for materials to use with their members. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your book caught on with them?
First – of course – you have to figure out how to create your Discussion or Study Guide. Suggestion: go to your library – or to a bookstore – to see what other authors have done. (You might be surprised how often I thumb through a book or article similar to what I’m writing to see how another author solved a problem.)
And there are other possibilities. When I wrote my police report book, I supplemented it with a free instructor’s manual and free videos. Those are wonderful marketing tools. My book What Your English Teacher Didn’t Tell You also has free supplementary videos. They’re fun to make, and each video ends with a short plug for my book.
Even if you’re lucky enough to have a commercial publisher, you’re going to need to do much of the marketing yourself. When you think about it, that’s a good thing. Who knows your book better than you do? No one!
For some writers, templates are hugely important. (Many teachers fall into this category.) Other writers feel stifled and confined when they’re confronted with a template. Who’s right?
That’s the wrong question.
What should you think about when you’re planning a writing task? (You do plan, right? Many writers don’t, alas). You should be thinking about the steps that will take your readers where you want them to go.
Many times a template is the answer, but it shouldn’t be your default. The “where you want them to go” principle should be paramount, and I have story that might clarify the point.
A friend of mine used to volunteer with the teen program at her church. One day she and the youth minister took the kids to a district youth event. To her chagrin, during the closing religious service they behaved badly, with giggling and horseplay. So she was surprised when the youth minister skipped the lecture when the kids boarded the bus to ride home.
Later, when she asked him why, he said the teens weren’t the real problem. The mistake was the way the event had been planned: A day of workshops and activities, followed by dinner, followed by the service.
“Dinner is social and relaxed,” he explained, “signifying that the serious stuff is over. The teens powered down – and then we asked them to make a quick transition into prayer and reflection. Not good planning.”
So how do you make a plan for a youth event – or a writing task? The usual approach is to list all the content you want to cover, and then arrange it so that it makes sense.
A smarter approach is to visualize your audience as you make your plan or design your template. So: if you’re planning a daylong youth event, begin by visualizing teenagers tumbling out of a bus. How are you going to engage them? When is the optimum time for lunch? Dinner? How are can you help them shift from one activity to the next?
Once you’ve made your plan, carried it out, and seen that it works, there’s nothing wrong with saving it to use again. Voila: a template!
But you also should be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking that every youth event has to be run the same way.
Similarly, many writing tasks – whether you’re writing a college essay or a business report – follow a standard format: beginning, middle, end. Attention-getter, thesis, development, wrap-up.
You know the drill (though you may not be following it as well as you think – I was still struggling in graduate school). But knowing how to follow a standard plan doesn’t mean you have to stick closely to it every time. Always think about your readers and your topic, and be willing to alter your plan if necessary.
And always – ALWAYS – make sure you’re connecting with your readers.
(For more information about planning a writing task, take a look Getting Started and The Planning Step – free videos I’ve posted at www.PlanMyPaper.com.)
Last month I urged you to make it easy for readers to find you online. Don’t procrastinate just because you haven’t published a book yet. You need to start building an audience before your book goes on sale.
One of the best ways to reach potential readers is through a blog. There are many advantages:
I’ve used my own blogs to do everything on this list.
So how do you get started? I just came across a website that offers excellent instructions – free! – for setting up a blog. Go to www.makeawebsitehub.com and click the Start a Blog link.
The big question – of course – is what to blog about. If you’re writing a nonfiction book, the answer is easy: blog about your topic. I use a blog about police reports to publicize – what else! – a book I’ve written about police reports. Where do I get content? I’ve set up a free Google Alert that sends me a daily email with links to recent articles about police reports. I also look for newspaper and TV news items that might interest the cops who read my blog.
But what if you write fiction? There are still numerous possibilities for a blog. One approach is to blog about the theme of your novel. If it’s an espionage novel, you could blog about espionage news stories. The same principle applies to family life, a foreign country, a historical period, or a topic like bullying, higher education, Hollywood…you get the idea.
Or you could use your blog to brand yourself (something you should be doing anyway!). You can write posts about your everyday life, your interests, and your reactions to current happenings in the news and popular culture.
Here’s an example of what you might do (with the help of a little imagination!). My friend Coach Sokolove from Field Training Associates just sent me a link to an article about the unfolding James Comey story. (Comey is the former FBI chief who testified before Congress this week.) Although this is a political story, Beth Skwarecki turned it into a how-to article about becoming a better writer.
Your primary goal will be to sell books. But an active blog may also help you land consulting jobs (it’s happened to me) and make connections to other professionals who may turn out to be terrific resources. (Cherish those people! They’re solid gold.)
Many bloggers make money by posting ads on their websites. If you don’t want to clutter your blog with ads and pop-ups, there’s another way – and it’s easy and free: You can become an Amazon Associate. Every time someone clicks a link on your blog and makes a purchase, you’ll earn a small payment. Over time they add up!
There was a small earthquake last month that you probably didn’t notice. My May 21 post featured this list of problematic words:
So what was the earthquake? Here it is: After 30 years of railing against the common one-word spelling, I finally removed all right from the list.
The turning point for me was a blog post from James Harbeck that made these sensible points:
Your answers on the test were all right.
If you’re feeling all right tomorrow, we’ll go shopping.
2. We already have two spellings of all ready for the same reason.
Your hotel room is all ready for you.
I already made the reservation for our hotel room.
3. The one-word spelling has been around for 100 years.
4. Use of the one-word spelling has increased 500% since 1960.
You’ll notice that nowhere in this post have I written the one-word version of all right. There are limits to how much I can stretch! To me it still looks like a misspelling, and I still get that shake-a-finger-at-you impulse.
But I did revise my list, and I’m really pleased that James Harbeck made such a sensible case for the change. If you have time to read his post, it’s a model of thoughtful decision-making about English usage.
Last week I offered some useful advice about writing for an audience. Here’s a recap:
But let’s say you’re already well versed in these principles. Is there anything else you need to know about writing for an audience?
Yes. What sets truly great writers apart is their ability to touch a reader’s mind, heart, and soul. Please don’t dismiss that as a platitude! It’s much harder than it sounds.
Every good writer I know is a great observer of human nature and human behavior. Good writers are good listeners, and they have an inexhaustible curiosity about other people (a trait that’s quite different from ordinary noisiness, by the way.)
My husband is a huge fan of Georges Simenon (1903-1989), a Belgian novelist who is still one of the world’s bestselling writers. True story: A prestigious writing organization once selected Simenon to receive its highest award. The award dinner was held at a fancy hotel, and of course Simenon was the center of attention.
But when the time came for the award presentation, he was nowhere to be found. A search committee was hastily rounded up to bring him back to the banquet room.
They found Simenon sitting in a quiet corner in the lobby where he could watch the hotel guests coming and going. When they asked why he wasn’t at the banquet, he explained that he liked to observe people and had learned a lot that way. His people-watching habit was more important to him than the award.
Can you learn a lesson from this story? Answer: we all can. How do I know that? Because I often think about this story, and I’m still learning from Simenon’s example. Try it!